There is always this constant judgement that when someone becomes a new mum, you should lock yourself away, and stick to the life of, laundry, nappy changing, night time wake ups and feeds. You shouldn’t want a break. You have a gorgeous new baby to cherish and look after. Your old life is no longer the person that you can be and why should you be?, for nights out and catch up with friends are no longer on the cards for new mums! And you shouldn’t feel the need to have a night off. Right?
Yet you always hear the famous ideology about the dads going out as soon as baby is born to ‘wet the baby’s head’... which we all know is just an excuse to get rat arsed with their mates down the local?
How is that fair?. When you become a new mum, your priorities change. Everyone understands that. When Blake was first born, I had zero energy to even want to hit the town, I didn’t feel great in myself and i must admit I did lock myself in on the whole ‘I am a mum now and mummy’s don’t do this.’ But after a while, you do miss the ‘old’ you and the spare time you never knew you had. You would like a bath to yourself. A bloody tea that doesn’t go stone cold!. A whole nights sleep, or even a night off in general. And that is okay! It’s okay to want a break sometimes.
You devote your whole self to this little life that you have created, and in the meantime forget who you are and what you do in your life.
The old you, is still you, you can be a mum and still do all the thing you want to do at the same time (within reason of course. As much as we would all love to drink a bottle or so of wine most nights a glass will just have to do 🤣)
Don’t let this ‘new mum’ persona take over you and get you down. It is OK to need a break.
You are allowed to get a baby sitter, or leave the baby with their dad (who btw is their dad.) and let your hair down once in a while, you can have a bath and have time to shave your legs!,(which I never knew would become a luxury to me) You can have that 11am lay in that you have been dreaming off for so long. Go have fun! Go do the things you want to do!
Because my god mums look at the shit we cope with on a day to day basis, it doesn’t mean you don’t love them any less, it just means you will be happier in yourself, which means... in theory... your baby may be happier too! 🤷♀️😋
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